November 2018

WAITING FOR THE LAST BUS

During our lifetimes, we live through constant change – so much ‘progress’ has taken place, some of which is useful – washing machines, mobile phones, travel, medical advances; some not so good – the abuse of the internet, the rise of mental health problems, the lack of public funds, global warming, to name but a few.  Our lives constantly adapt to the seasons, wearing different clothing and changing our heating during the long summer, the sudden cold autumn and dark afternoons!  The seasons bring with them unique features and stunning colours – the leaves and recent sunsets for instance.  In the Church’s year, we revisit seasons and at the beginning of November, our theme is remembrance – the commemoration of loved ones at All Souls and All Saints tide and on Remembrance Sunday those whose lives were lost by service personnel over the years, particularly focussing this year on the 100 years anniversary of the end of the First World War.  Our lives have their seasons too: spring brings new life – childhood, with its energy and excitement; summer adulthood, accompanied by responsibility and hard work; the middle-age of autumn comes with caring for elderly relatives as well as concern for the younger generations; and the winter season of deteriorating health, a slower pace of life and time for contemplation. I am reading a book called ‘Waiting for the Last Bus’ in preparation for my Sabbatical next year, when I will spend time as a volunteer Chaplain in a hospice and a hospital, considering the different approaches to end of life care.  One of the book’s themes is thinking about our past lives as films and how we tend to re-run ‘movies’ in our heads of past events – the good, the bad, the amusing and the painful.  Our emotions are constantly stirred, and we have ‘flashbacks’, often whilst listening to a specific piece of music or revisiting a significant place.  But the assurances offered are that we do not need to be trapped in the compulsive remembrance of the past, wishing things had been different, the ‘if only’. What we have said and done in the past cannot be undone, but it can be forgiven by a loving Heavenly Father.  Peter, one of Jesus’ closest friends, constantly failed and let him down – particularly when Jesus needed him most, as he journeyed towards Jerusalem and to his death on the cross.  Rather than punish Peter, he forgave him and so we can fail without being destroyed by it.  Let us ask God through Jesus to forgive our past mistakes and to help us to forgive ourselves and others too – living with hatred and guilt is exhausting!  As we look forward to the Heavenly Banquet that we are all on the road to, let us ‘hold fast to the hope set before us’ as we have a ‘sure and steadfast anchor of the soul, a hope that enters into the inner place behind the curtain, where Jesus has gone as a forerunner on our behalf’.  Sally

 Forthcoming events at St. Anne’s Church

Monday November 12th        7.30 pm            Fellowship – ‘Between the Grids’ by Suzanna Kempe

Saturday November 17th      10 am – 12      Toilet Twinning Coffee Morning

Tuesday November 27th       7pm                 Accordion Concert

Wednesday November 28th 7pm – 9pm     Marion Catts Christmas Workshop – see below for details

Saturday December 8th        10am–Noon   Christmas Coffee Morning

Team Events

EVERY TUESDAY (Term Time)       9.30am            Tots Praise – St. Mary’s Church, Eling

Tuesday November 4th                 2.00 pm            Advent Quiet Day, The Rectory, St. Winfrid’s

Sunday November 11th                 4.15 pm            Café Church at Thistledonicely Café in Totton

Tuesday November 13th              2.00–3.30 pm            Team Social at Thistledonicely Café in Totton

 Please bring along a friend or neighbour who might not otherwise get out to eat cake and share fellowship! All welcome!

Sunday November 18th                     10.00 am            Lego Church, St. Mary’s Eling

Saturday November 24th                  2.00-5.00pm       Messy Church – St Winfrid’s Church

Saturday December 8th                    10am-1pm           Messy Church in Totton Precinct

 Monday December 10th                    12.30pm    Team Christmas Lunch Carlo’s Restaurant&Ice Cream Parlour

We have 30 places available – There is a list in church for you to sign up for this lunch – Fran will need a deposit of £5 each please and a note of your menu choices – the menu is with the sign-up sheet. We will provide transport where possible.

Sunday December 23rd                     10.00 am            Lego Church, St. Mary’s Eling

St. Anne’s Knitters

I know that it is Autumn…the leaves are falling… the nights are longer and…little blankets have started to arrive for the Baby Unit. One lady has had the good idea of including a matching tiny hat to her blankets!

Thanks to you all! - Pat Elcombe

Saturday - November 17th

Toilet Twinning Coffee Morning – 10.00 am – 12 noon

World Toilet Twinning Day is on Sunday November 18th. You may have noticed small collecting boxes in each of the Church toilets!  We will be holding a fund-raising coffee morning on Saturday 17th, during which we hope to twin our two Church toilets with loos in Uganda.  If you would like to twin your own toilets at home, Sally has the certificates available in advance, as well as on the day.  It costs £60 to twin a loo, which provides not only the means for a community to build their own but also to learn about healthy living and cleanliness. The members of the Junior Choir Club have been practising a special song for the occasion and the Guides will be making some cakes!  Toilet paper and soap will also be available for sale. Please come and join us to hear more about the campaign to bring better living conditions for people around the world and to have some fun too!

Thanksgiving Service – St. Winfrid’s – November 4th – 11.00 am

Archdeacon Peter Rouch will be speaking next Sunday at the last service for a while at St. Winfrid’s Church building.  After the service we will share a birthday cake to celebrate the 80th birthday since St Wins building was opened in 1938. St Winfrid’s services will move to their new temporary home at AFC Totton in December.                                                                                                                                                                                                              Chris Steed

Autumn Bazaar

Thank you to everyone who helped organise our Autumn Bazaar on October 6th – and to everyone who came along to support the event.  We do all appreciate the generous support given which raise £660 for St. Anne’s Church Funds.

Marion Catts Christmas Workshop

Wednesday November 28th – 7.00pm – 9.00pm  Book your place now for this Fun Evening!  Places are limited so make sure of your place by booking early!  The cost is just £5 each.                                                                     Ring me on 02380 862522 to book!

Christmas Coffee Morning Saturday December 8th – 10am – noon

 Stalls Christmas Gifts Tombola   Toys Raffle Christmas Music  Tea, Coffee, Mince Pies

 If you have any suitable Christmas items that you can donate I would be pleased to receive them!  Val

Women’s Refuge

We are continuing to support the Women’s Refuge with gifts of toiletries – there is a lilac-coloured box in church for your donations.  (The green box is for the Basics Bank – they are also glad to receive toiletries)     Ros Sealey

February 6th to 18th – Rwanda 2019

There are a few places left for the Deanery Trip, co-led by Sally.  In addition to visiting our link Churches in Kibuye district, we will spend time in Kigale (the capital of Rwanda) and Gahini, seeing the fruit of the Deanery Lent Appeals that we have supported this year and in the past.  If you would like to join us, please let Sally know as soon as possible.  The cost is likely to be £1,200 per person.

Shoe Box Appeal

Leaflets for this appeal are now available in church – please take a copy if you would like to fill a box this year.  The shoeboxes will need to be returned in mid-November to allow time for shipment to recipients in time for Christmas.  If you can’t find a shoebox you can purchase specially printed boxes (40p each) at Testwood Baptist Church       Anne                                                                                                                                                                          

Reverse Advent Calendar

During the four Sundays of Advent, we are giving a particular boost to the Basics Bank, as the lead up to Christmas can be particularly difficult for many families in our locality.  We will have ‘Advent Calendar’ boxes with 24 sections in for our donations – if each person brought one item each week, we would provide 8 boxes during December! When you are buying your Christmas presents, do spare a thought for those who are struggling.  Thank you in advance!  Sally

Churches Together in Totton and the Forest Edge

Sunday December 2nd          6.30pm           Advent Service, Christ Church, Colbury

Monday December 3rd          8.00pm            Prospects Christmas Celebration, Testwood Baptist Church

 Friday December 14th           6.30pm           Carols in The Precinct - Totton 

Quiet Spaces – Dates for Your Diary

Monday January 14th            11am – 1pm – The Vicarage, Cooks Lane

Leslie Grimm will try and set up another session while I am taking my Sabbatical.

Monday May 20th                   11am – 1pm – The Vicarage, Cooks Lane

On this date I will be leading a Grave Talk session. This is open to people of all faiths and doubts and will consist of chatting informally around issues concerned with death, dying and funerals. We seldom talk about death and there will be plenty of opportunity to ask questions and air your thoughts. It won’t be morbid!

Looking forward to seeing you at one of these Quiet Spaces -                                              Sally

Smarties Challenge!

A big thank you to everyone who responded to this challenge.  Your donations raised a magnificent £400.50p for St. Anne’s Church Funds!  There are a few tubes of Smarties left in Church – please put a donation in the plate if you would like to take any of them – or continue to collect 20ps throughout the year!

Plans for New Development to the North of Totton

We have received the following letter from local resident Robert Latham about the very significant development of land to the north of Totton and Calmore.

Dear Rev Marchant

The time for formal comments regarding this discussion plan has passed and I have been surprised by the fact that in reading the comments that have been made very few have come forward from local residents.  Within my comments I expressed the view that it was undesirable for a proposal to be included for a new major road that links the A36 to Loperwood as it seems to me this would encourage traffic to pass the front of St. Anne's Church and then on through Calmore Road to the existing housing.   You will recall that the Council insisted that the new development of Farm Close had to be accessed off Calmore Road and not Loperwood, and thus it seems incongruous to now propose a road to enter Loperwood via the A36.  The NFDC are now in the process of preparing a formal document for further public consultation to put forward to a Ministerial Inspector and thus there will be an opportunity to raise objections on the final proposals.  I look forward to hearing your views.  With best wishes  Robert Latham

Who to contact
Team Vicar – Revd Sally Marchant  Tel: 02380 488113  Email:revsallymarchant@gmail.com
NB: Sally is ‘off-duty’ on Fridays
Churchwardens  Ian Gregory Tel: 02380 872885  Ann Quesnell Tel: 02380 663469
Church Website www.stannescalmore.co.uk
Find us at the junction of Calmore Road and Cooks Lane – SO40 2RH


Copy for December  Newsletter  Please forward items to Stewart  by Sunday November 25th
for publication on November 28th   Stewart.at.stannes@gmail.com




Let Lynn know if you can help Tel: 07770 685256 or archesatstwins@gmail.com. Training sessions for
those helping will be held at 7pm on 13th and 20th September at AFC Totton.
This only works if you bring a friend so please bring someone along.

Who to contact
Team Vicar – Revd Sally Marchant Tel: 02380 488113 Email:revsallymarchant@gmail.com
NB: Sally is ‘off-duty’ on Fridays
Churchwardens Ian Gregory Tel: 02380 872885 Ann Quesnell Tel: 02380 663469
Church Website www.stannescalmore.co.uk
Find us at the junction of Calmore Road and Cooks Lane – SO40 2RH


Copy for November Newsletter  Please forward items to Stewart
by Sunday October 28th  for publication onOctober 31st
Stewart.at.stannes@gmail.com